Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc

#015: What the Phub!

In this episode we explore the meaning of phubbing (phone snubbing). Have you ever had someone pick up their phone mid-conversation? Is this normal or are we addicted to the brick in our pocket? Cell phones may bring us closer to those far from us yet take us further from those next to us. Research shows that in situations where our phones are constantly accessible perceived relationship satisfaction goes down as well. Some research even explores phone addiction and its relation to how we spend our time. This week we discover several way to increase our attention span - what to pay attention to, how strongly and for how long - to help us build relationships with those we care about in practical ways.

 

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#014: Taboo Topics

In this episode we talk about subjects we “shouldn’t” talk about, a.k.a taboo topics. Talkdoc brings us up to speed with the reasons we avoid these topics. There’s lots of reasons we don’t talk about things but the key is to start thinking about what those are and where they come from. Some people in our lives can support tough topics and some cannot. Remember to carefully navigate whom we share our stories with. Timing is also a major player in these topics and actively understanding the people around us will help.

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#013: Stories We Make Up

Do you have stories you tell yourself rattling around in your head about the thoughts, feelings, motivations and behaviors of those you care about?  Have you convinced yourself you know what you need to know? Are you sure you know whether the story is made up or whether it’s true?

The stories we create, can create problems for ourselves and others. In this episode of “Asking For A Friend,” find out about the reasons why we choose to operate with less information vs more. Learn about the brain science behind the cause and effect of operating with too little information and how it leads to a crazy cycle of relationship erosion.

Then discover the three communication steps - including the “duct tape” of communication, you can put into practice to release yourself from the crazy cycle. Listen now and move beyond what you think you know to build stronger relationships and a healthier you.

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#012: AFAF with Shardasia LeDay on How to Reconcile

In this episode Shardasia LeDay, Social Worker and entrepreneur invites us into the difficult roads she’s walked through with her incarcerated father. She describes how forgiveness and reconciliation have shaped her and her relationship with him. Research shows us forgiveness and reconciliation are about choice. But how do we do it? As Shardasia reminds us, many people will focus on how things can go bad...but “what if it goes good?” Join us as Shardasia courageously shares her and her father’s brave journey. 

 

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#011: Self Forgiveness - You Hold the Keys to the Cell You Occupy

Have you ever done something you felt was unforgivable? Have you felt unworthy of forgiveness when it was offered to you? Do you freely extend forgiveness to others but withhold it from yourself? In this episode we talk about the critical steps to accepting forgiveness when it is offered and what it means to forgive yourself even if it isn’t. Listen in and discover the keys you hold to unlocking the cell you occupy. 

 

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#010: Forgiveness 101- How to Forgive Others

In this episode we focus on tools for forgiving others. Ugh, forgiveness is messy. We hear examples of people doing the work and find the path of forgiveness can take ordinary people on extraordinary journeys. TalkDoc describes 4 phases to guide us through this work: uncover, decide, work and discover. 

Research warns us the danger of conditional forgiveness. You know...that  “if” condition to earn forgiveness, it can keep us from our own freedom. Conditional forgiveness reinstates the string we are trying to cut. So how do you get to a place where the string is cut between you and the transgressor? How do you choose freedom on the path of forgiveness? 

 

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#009: Myths of Forgiveness

This week we unpack the myths of forgiveness. 

The world tries to convince us forgiveness is weak, minimizes justice and over simplifies the work it takes among other frustrating ideas. We wrestle with how these myths have effected our own paths to forgiveness. The real work of forgiveness is discovering how to set ourselves free and how we hold our own keys to freedom. Don’t forget, rumination is “the bad boy”! 

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#008: AFAF with Katie Masters on Taking Risks

Katie Masters, a former student of TalkDoc, takes the guest seat on “Asking For A Friend” this week. She shares her TC4G journey to create her company, Nail Thoughts, and what she’s learned about starting a successful nail artist business.  Listen and learn from Katie about what worked for her, what didn’t, and what motivated her to cross the bridge between dreaming and doing.

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#007: Sweet Talk - How to Give A Compliment!

In this episode we look for the good around us via the language of compliments. Research shows that compliments positively contribute to our relational health. However, back handed compliments can have an equally opposite effect. TalkDoc gives us framework for how to make space with compliments both for others and within ourselves. So how do you desire to be seen? Do you take time to study the people you love? Consider your TC4G carefully this week and let us know! 

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#006: Meet the Bickersons! How to Reduce Bickering

In this episode TalkDoc teaches us about the effects of bickering. We’ve all done it and we’ve all disliked it when we’ve experienced it. So how do we curb this? This week we confess our own bickering habits, what it feels like to witness it and why it gets us nowhere. Bonus, research shows the more we improve this communication area the quicker our bodies heal! Don’t forget to let us know your TC4G! 

 

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