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Dr. Pamela Kreiser (with Meredith Edwards Nagel and Teighlor Polendo) shares her practical insights about how to improve relationships and promote peace—drawing upon her experience teaching graduate and undergraduate students, serving as a Lead Mediator, and training Mediators. Submit your questions to hello@afafpodcast.com KEYWORDS: Communication, Interpersonal Communication, Interpersonal Conflict, Relationships, Mediation, Human Connection, Dyadic Communication, Interpersonal Communication Skills.
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Tuesday Apr 09, 2024
Tuesday Apr 09, 2024
Have you ever been told, “I don't like your tone?” That simple statement carries a world of significance. It reflects not just the words spoken but also the emotional context and intention behind them. Our tone of voice serves as a powerful vehicle for transmitting feelings, attitudes, and intentions in every interaction.
In this episode, we explore the intricate world of nonverbal communication, with a focus on tone as a vital component of paralanguage. Join TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor, as we unravel the layers of how tone can profoundly shape the interpretation and reception of our messages.
From the volume and pitch to the pace and clarity of our speech, every nuance of tone plays a crucial role in conveying emotions, confidence levels, and overall competence. Drawing from personal experiences, we share anecdotes that illuminate how tone can either strengthen or strain relationships and communication dynamics.
We dive into fascinating research on how voice pitch can influence attraction and how subtle variations in tone can reveal underlying emotions or hidden intentions, often speaking louder than words alone.
Ultimately, this episode serves as a gentle reminder of the power of tone in our everyday interactions. By becoming more aware of our tone and learning to adjust it consciously, we can unlock the potential for more meaningful, empathetic, and impactful communication in both personal and professional realms.
Tune in as we unravel the nuances of tone and its profound impact on our relationships and communication efficacy.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Gottman, Gottman Institute, Guerrero, Touch Research Institute
Resources :
Maya Angelou quotation:
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Gottman and Notarius (2004): Observing Marital Interaction
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2000.00927.x
Tuesday Apr 02, 2024
Tuesday Apr 02, 2024
In case you missed it, we are back with another AFAF Rewind! This is your chance to revisit Episodes #023 and #024: How to Manage Gaslighting (Part 1 and 2)
In this compelling two-part series, we delve deep into the often-misunderstood concept of “gaslighting” with Staci Ross, M.A., L.M.F.T., an expert in the field.
Discover the nuanced layers of gaslighting as Staci breaks down this extreme manipulation tactic. Unveiling its systemic nature, she reveals how gaslighting is an intentional effort to erode a person's sense of self over time, strategically dismantling their support systems and fostering isolation. Join our insightful conversation with TalkDoc, Meredith, Teighlor, and Staci as we explore the subtle warning signs of gaslighting and empower you with strategies to break free from these toxic relationships.
Staci's wealth of knowledge extends beyond theory, as she draws upon her personal experiences to shed light on these destructive patterns. Tune in to gain invaluable insights into discerning gaslighting and learn actionable steps to reclaim your sense of self.
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SHOW NOTES:
Link to full AFAF Episode 23:
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/172b1da84e9ef9e99153bd3d3622698b
Link to full AFAF Episode 24:
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/3a5b4efae31991c46b80678dfad86f9f
Tuesday Mar 26, 2024
Tuesday Mar 26, 2024
Join us for a special episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc as we delve into the world of Multiple Sclerosis (MS) in honor of MS Awareness Month. Our guest, Marissa Cirbo, bravely shares her personal journey with MS, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs she has faced since her diagnosis in 2022.
Marissa takes us back to the beginning, recounting the unusual symptoms that first appeared after a trip to Mexico and the journey of discovery that followed. She discusses the frustrating experience of being initially misdiagnosed and the emotional rollercoaster of shock and grief upon receiving the correct diagnosis of MS. Throughout our conversation, Marissa eloquently navigates the complex medical maze she encountered and shares valuable insights into self-advocacy and finding a support network.
One of the key takeaways from our discussion is the concept of MS as a "snowflake disease," highlighting the unique experiences and challenges that each individual with MS faces. Marissa's story emphasizes the importance of MS Awareness Month in raising awareness about these complexities, particularly the often invisible symptoms that can be so difficult to communicate.
We also explore the impact of chronic illness on relationships, emphasizing the need for open and honest communication. Marissa shares practical advice for those who are newly diagnosed with MS and their families, including tips on setting boundaries and increasing self-awareness in communication.
Throughout the episode, Marissa's resilience and proactive approach to managing her MS journey shine through, including her involvement in a support group for newly diagnosed individuals. Join us as we discover hope, healing, and meaningful connections amidst the challenges of chronic illness, and learn valuable communication strategies from Marissa's inspiring story.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : National MS Society, Multiple Sclerosis Association of America
Resources/Links:
National Multiple Sclerosis Society https://www.nationalmssociety.org/
The National MS Society's vision is: A World Free of MS. The Society's mission is: We will cure MS while empowering people affected by MS to live their best lives.
Multiple Sclerosis Association of America (MSAA) https://mymsaa.org/
The Multiple Sclerosis Association of America (MSAA) is a leading resource for the entire MS community, improving lives today through vital services and support.
Can Do MS: https://cando-ms.org/
Free programs and resources help people living with multiple sclerosis and their care partners make each day the best it can be. Learn how MS can impact your life, find motivation and personalized guidance to overcome challenges and build a positive support network.
Lived Health: https://www.livedhealth.org/
A free, patient-led online video resource shining light on long-term health conditions. We guide fellow patients through diagnosis, treatment and lifestyle.
Tuesday Mar 19, 2024
Tuesday Mar 19, 2024
In case you missed it, we are back with another AFAF Rewind! This is your chance to revisit Episode #028: How to Stop Over Explaining!
Ever catch yourself in the loop of over-explaining? It's like a dance move where we talk too much and end up regretting the whole interaction later on. We look back on Episode 28 where we unpack the anxieties that fuel our tendency to over-explain, from the fear of others' perceptions to the nagging sense of not quite fitting in.
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we dissect four common pitfalls that muddy our messages: the stumbling block of repetition, the art of false starts, the peril of filled pauses, and the awkwardness of unfilled pauses. These communication hiccups not only risk confusing your audience but can also leave you second-guessing your entire interaction.
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SHOW NOTES:
Link to AFAF Episode 28:
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/7256cb9fd6ba3bb1893f130453818b47
Tuesday Mar 12, 2024
Tuesday Mar 12, 2024
Have you ever pondered the complexities of your own reactions to being touched? Join us as we dive into the nuanced dynamics of touch, where it can be both a positive connection and, in certain contexts, a source of discomfort.
In this episode, we begin our exploration of nonverbal communication by drawing on Judee Burgoon's renowned Expectancy Violation Theory. We dissect the intricate tapestry of our responses to touch from others. Burgoon provides a valuable framework that helps us navigate through instances where touch exceeds our expectations, both positively and negatively.
Tune in to hear engaging discussions fueled by both research findings and personal experiences. Beyond adult interactions, we explore the profound significance of human touch in the early stages of life, acknowledging its indispensable role as a soothing and regulating force for infants and children.
Join us as we unravel the layers of touch, an essential component of the human experience that not only connects us on a profound level but also serves as a powerful tool for maintaining our connections with others. Your understanding of communication and relationships is about to reach a whole new depth.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Judee Burgoon, Mehrabian, Touch Research Institute, L. Guerrero, Scientific American
Resources :
Judee Burgoon’s Expectancy Violation Theory
https://www.communicationtheory.org/expectancy-violation-theory/
Judee Burgoon Explains Expectancy Violation Theory
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-kmnZIxiYHk
Touching Map from University of Oxford
https://www.ox.ac.uk/news/2015-10-27-maps-show-where-touching-allowed-0
Infant Touch Article
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/infant-touch/
Power of Touch by Chillot- Psychology Today
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/the-power-of-touch
Tuesday Mar 05, 2024
Tuesday Mar 05, 2024
In case you missed it, we are back with another AFAF Rewind! This is your chance to revisit some of our most impactful episodes! In this episode, we are bringing you a clip from Episode #005: Shut Down Mode - How to Manage Stonewalling.
Stonewalling can be a red flag in any relationship, signaling potential challenges ahead or even worse. Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we review practical ways to improve our relationships by managing stonewalling.
Join us as we dissect stonewalling and offer practical tips to transform your approach to relationships. Tune in, rewind, and rediscover the keys to unlocking stronger, more resilient connections in the relationships you want to keep.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Dr. John Gottman, Gottman Institute
Episode #005: Shut Down Mode - How to Manage Stonewalling (Full Episode)
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/100334e9de176a1fa5f53be4503458cf
Links:
Tuesday Feb 27, 2024
Tuesday Feb 27, 2024
Ready to break free from the comfort zone and expand your world? Join us in the latest episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc as we dive deep into the transformative power of Trading Comfort for Growth.
Are your relationships and decisions keeping your world confined? Explore the subtle ways we unknowingly limit our choices and hinder personal growth. Delve into the dynamics of playing it safe versus embracing change in your social circles. Discover how resisting risk can affect the depth and richness of your connections. Learn about the pivotal moments where decisions either shrink or expand your world. Uncover the psychology behind choices and their impact on personal development.
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we share actionable strategies to make your world bigger on both macro and micro levels. From meeting new people to making bold decisions, we've got you covered. Understand why a bigger world equals broader perspectives. Gain insights into yourself, others, and the world around you by breaking free from the confines of a small world mindset.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Brene Brown, Latimore
Resources :
Brene Brown’s Book - Braving the Wilderness
https://brenebrown.com/book/braving-the-wilderness/
AFAF Episode 23 and 24 Gaslighting Episodes
Episode #023: AFAF with Staci Ross on How to Identify Gaslighting (PART 1)
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/172b1da84e9ef9e99153bd3d3622698b
Episode #024: AFAF with Staci Ross on How to Manage Gaslighting (PART 2)
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/3a5b4efae31991c46b80678dfad86f9f
Quotation :
"The heaviest weight at the gym is the front door." —Ed Latimore
Tuesday Feb 20, 2024
Tuesday Feb 20, 2024
Introducing AFAF Rewind! Your look back on our podcast's greatest hits!
As February unfolds, we pay homage to American Heart Month by revisiting Episode 60, a crucial discussion on Women and Heart Attacks. Tune in for poignant clips that shed light on the often overlooked signs, emphasizing the importance of awareness and proactive care.
Consider this episode a heartfelt reminder to safeguard the well-being of the women in your life. Whether you missed it the first time or just want to revisit the essential insights, these curated snippets serve as a teaser, encouraging you to delve into the full episode.
Join us in honoring American Heart Month by not only enjoying this retrospective episode but also sharing it with friends and family. Let's amplify the conversation on health, relationships, and the vital connections that make life meaningful. Your heart will thank you for it!
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SHOW NOTES:
AFAF Episode #060: Women and Heart Attacks
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/5802794d3abd2e633ee6f988817c5777
Experts : Kim Newlin, RN, CNS, NP-C and Staci Ross, M.A., L.M.F.T.
Resources : American Heart Association, New England Journal of Medicine, British Heart Foundation, Lancet, Oregon Health & Science University, mysisters.org, Tisch Center for Women's Health at NYU’s Langone Medical Center, Harvard Researcher Dr. Catherine Kreatsoulas
Tools : (below)
American Heart Association - Women:
https://www.goredforwomen.org/en/
Youtube recommendation from Kim- “Just A Little Heart Attack”:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t7wmPWTnDbE
What’s your Heart Health? Link to the Tool: Essential 8
https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-living/healthy-lifestyle/lifes-essential-8
Tuesday Feb 13, 2024
Tuesday Feb 13, 2024
Have you ever been caught in the web of an undefined relationship, grappling with the ambiguity of where you stand? We've all been there, especially during those moments of introspection around widely celebrated holidays like Valentine’s Day.
In this thought-provoking episode, TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor dive into the world of undefined relationships, including "situationships." Join us as we navigate through the complexities of Valentine's Day and the myriad emotions it stirs within undefined connections. Ever heard of DTR (Define the Relationship) Talks? We unpack the significance of these crucial conversations and their impact on shaping the trajectory of relationships.
We bring in the expertise of Dr. Davilla, who recommends developing essential skills to enhance the health of our relationships. From effective communication strategies to fostering commitment, Dr. Davilla's insights provide a roadmap for navigating the twists and turns of modern relationships.
Whether you're in the throes of a situationship or seeking new strategies, tune in as we unravel the mysteries of undefined relationships and equip you with the tools to foster a healthier and more fulfilling connection. Your journey to improved relationship dynamics starts here!
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Dr. Joanne Davilla’s Ted Talk: Skills for Healthy Relationships
Developing Relationship Skills: Insight, mutuality, and emotion regulation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gh5VhaicC6g
Resources :
Situationships: What They Are and 5 Signs You’re in One
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-a-situationship
The DTR Talk: How To Define The Relationship & When To Do It
Links :
75% cite “lack of commitment” as their identified reason for divorce. More information:
https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/divorce/divorce-statistics/
Tuesday Dec 12, 2023
Tuesday Dec 12, 2023
The holidays are a time of joy, but they can also bring about stress, especially when it comes to openly discussing topics like money and gift-giving. It's a delicate dance that demands clarity and courage, especially in relationships that are already sensitive.
In this episode, TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor dive into the topic of setting expectations about gifts and money in those relationships we want to keep. Join us as we embark on a journey to explore practical strategies for our listeners to navigate these potentially tricky conversations. We discuss strategies including understanding the recipient's primary love language, emphasizing the importance of focusing on gifts that the receiver truly desires, rather than projecting the giver's preferences.
Candid conversations are at the heart of healthy relationships, and we delve into the art of having open and honest discussions about expectations. Setting boundaries is another key aspect that we explore, providing valuable insights on maintaining balance and ensuring mutual respect.
Finally, we explore creative approaches to gift-giving, proving that thoughtful gestures often carry more weight than extravagant presents. So, whether you're in a long-term partnership, a new romance, or navigating family dynamics, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you foster meaningful connections during the most wonderful time of the year.
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SHOW NOTES:
Resources :
The Five Love Languages
Steig Article on Holiday Expectations:
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/holiday-relationship-expectations
The Simpsons - Homer’s Bowling Ball Episode “Life on the Fast Lane”:
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0701152/plotsummary/
Real Simple Article by Latimer
https://www.realsimple.com/work-life/money/talk-about-money-with-friends
Martha Stewart Article - “Setting Boundaries for the Holidays”
https://www.marthastewart.com/8186986/how-tell-friends-no-holiday-gifts
Links :
Episode 75: How to Express Your Needs to Unlock More Intimacy
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/0fe8e82f7c04dd389c68b0029e5b4abd
Episodes 20, 21, 22 Boundaries Series
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/c6b431c4b18335a1759db7588986fd0d
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/8dc8625be3a918b62f8c9d16a1f888f9
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/04a05256443fa4baabf2b3dcbfcc32d9
Money Playlist - Music from the Quiz
Money Money Money by ABBA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ETxmCCsMoD0
Bitch Better Have My Money by Rihanna
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3eAMGXFw1o
Can’t Buy Me Love by The Beatles
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3WJiqc_bEs
Bills Bills Bills by Destiny’s Child
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NiF6-0UTqtc
Rich Girl by Hall and Oates
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIAkRVBS-0U